Aug 2023

This is the story of two brothers. The elder brother was a drug addict, and the younger one is a successful businessman.

The elder brother was a drug addict and a drunkard who frequently beat up his family.

The younger brother was a successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family.

Some people wanted to find out the difference in attitude, though they belonged to the same parent. So they decided to go to the brothers themselves and know the reason.

The elder brother was asked: How come you do what you do? You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. What motivates you?

The elder brother replied: My father

They asked: What about your father?

Elder brother Replied: My father was a drug addict and a drunkard and he used to beat us. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am.

They went to the younger brother and asked the same question.

People asked: How come you are doing everything right? What is your source of motivation?

The younger brother replied: My father. When I was a little boy, I used to see my father drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind that that was not what I wanted to be.

Both were deriving their strengths and motivation from the same source but one was using an optimistic thinking style and another was using pessimistic thinking style.

Learning: We evaluate all situations in our life through our thinking style. Either it could help us to view choices and possibilities which will have the power to change the situation for better. Or we could choose to remain in the same situation because we resist change and reluctant to see the choices. There is deep connection between our thinking style and behaviour (action)

Your mindset determines how you spend your time, who you spend your time with, what decisions you make, and where you invest your resources.

If you agree with me, then the next questions to ask yourself are:

-What mindsets do I have?

-Where did I get them?

-And most importantly, what mindsets do I need to help guide me during the critical situations ahead?

May 2023

Habits define you. 

All the results in your life come from your daily habits.

In all walks of life, you don’t become an overnight success. You become successful over time from all the little things you do one day at a time.

YOUR LIFE IS YOUR BUSINESS!

YOUR HABITS ARE YOUR BUSINESS!

From various questions people have asked me I found that their failure and sufferings lie within those little things they do every day to gradually wreck their own lives:

 1) Change NOTHING but expecting Different Results:

There’s a saying that the definition of madness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Take this to heart. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Period.

Oftentimes the only difference between a successful person and a person who makes little progress is not one’s superior abilities, but the courage to bet on one’s ideas, to take calculated risks, and to take steady micro steps forward. 

In other words, some people sit and wait for some magic to happen while the rest of us just get up and get to work.

Habit Challenge 1:- What ONE Tiny Habit you can CHANGE today which can help you produce massive results in few months from now?

May 2023

Do you know what is the highest paid job in the world?

Its called "Thinking"

The person who can think clearly gets paid more than the doer. Just think who gets paid more between an architect and a mason.

Great achievers are great THINKERS!

Somehow they discovered how to utilize and harness that powerful ability that uniquely defines us as human.

But in today's hectic lifestyle, we hardly find time to pause and ponder. We are also on reacting mode.

So, here is an opportunity to warm up your thinking muscles. 

I am going to post a thought and a question. You have to ponder for sometime and share with me your answer.  

Remember: All it takes is one tiny-though to ignite a tidal wave of possibilities.

Isn't it time you discovered how smart and creative you really are?

Think Challenge #1

Thought:- Too much rest can make your mind rust!

Ponder:- In what way are you 'resting' when you should be active - and what is one thing you can do today to start changing that?

May 2023

Do you know what is the highest paid job in the world?

Its called "Thinking"

Think Challenge #3

Thought:- It is hard to solve problems when you are obvious of the fact that you are part of the problem.

Ponder:- In what ways you have contributed to creating the problem you are trying to tackle now?

May 2023

Do you know what is the highest paid job in the world?

Its called "Thinking"

Think Challenge #4

Thought:- "Slow and Steady" wins the race as along as "Fast and Steady" is not participating in the race.

Ponder:- In what areas are you proceeding with too much caution instead of jumping into the deep end and swimming quickly and steadily?

May 2023

99% of people want to GROW in life, but scared of the discomfort each growth brings about.

Discomfort = Progress

But many quit because they struggle to handle the side effects of discomfort.

You could have observed the same when you want start yoga, meditation, lose weight, break any habit, grow your sales or income in your life.

You want to use your will power and do many things but then fail. Our Mind gets habituated to quit when it spots the feeling associated with the discomfort.

Let me share with you 3 steps to become friends with discomfort.

1) Go up to the edge of discomfort and stay there for a little longer than you’d like. You want to collapse, you want to exit. Instead, hold the discomfort for a little longer. See it as your growth in action.

2) Now drop mindfully into the discomfort & uncertainty. Drop into your body, noticing the sensations of the discomfort. Standing on stage in front of hundreds of people? Notice the sensations of anxiety or nervousness (or excitement, whatever you’d like to call it). Running a hard mile? Notice the sensations in your legs and torso.

3) Practice opening in that uncertainty & discomfort. See what you can do to relax into this feeling of being at your edge. Can you bring a sense of curiosity? Explore the bodily feeling for a bit, noticing what it’s like. Relax your muscles around these sensations. Bring a sense of gentleness to it. A sense of compassion. A sense of humour. Open your mind to all sensations in the present moment, including the sense of discomfort but also all of your surroundings.

Remember, growth lies within the discomfort only.

Ponder:- What ONE Discomfortable activity you are ready to practice the above steps in your life?

Apr 2023

While fishing, the older man was watching the younger fisherman who was throwing the larger fish that he caught back in the water while keeping the smaller fish. 

He was intrigued by this and asked the younger fisherman why he was not keeping the bigger fish. 

The young fisherman replied saying that he only had a seven inch frying pan.

John Maxwell, an authority in leadership, states that people with seven inch frying pans “never can get bigger than the world that they have created for themselves…. 

Throw that frying pan away,” he suggests. 

“Get a bigger world. Get around bigger people. Get bigger experiences. Get bigger exposure.” 

 This ‘getting bigger’ will generate greater expectations of your life and all the possibilities it holds for you. 

May you get a bigger frying pan – an enormous one - one that will allow you to fill your life with richness, learning, prosperity and happiness beyond your wildest dreams. Life is so very, very good.

Ponder:- Currently what is stopping you in thinking BIG? Go deep within you until you figure out the answer. 

Sep 2022

Leaders are Learners

What kind of attitude do you have when it comes to learning?

I have observed three kinds of categories. Many people live in one of three zones:

1) Challenge Zone - I attempt to do what I haven't done before

2) Comfort Zone - I do what I already know I can do

3) Coasting Zone - I don't even do what I have done before

Its sad that many leave the challenge zone and stop growing.

Over the years I have developed a highly disciplined growth regime

I read daily to grow in my personal life

I listen daily to broaden my perspective

I think daily to apply what I learn

I file/organize daily to preserve what I learn

Apr 2022

No one is perfect. none of us.

we all have bad days, we are all gonna feel like shit sometimes and that's fine.

we have this crazy standards especially with the internet where everything has to be perfect all the time and we have to look perfect or to behave perfect. We have to say the right things ..

Everyone screws up and that's all right. 

Laugh through it and don't take yourself too seriously and make sure that you don't live for someone else's validation.

Its your validation that you need.

If I start insulting you in another language, you feel nothing.  they don't mean anything to you. because it's you who put the meaning to it. 

For me, I know what it means,  but it doesn't matter how hard I screamed into you.  You might start laughing. Take their words take away the value of the words and drop them to the floor. 

If you take that away, they fall to the ground. They never get to touch you. They are nothing.

Apr 2022

The most destructive habit..............................Worry

The greatest Joy......................................Giving

The greatest loss.......................Loss of self-respect

The most satisfying work......................Helping others

The ugliest personality trait....................Selfishness

The most endangered species.................Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource.......................Our youth

The greatest "shot in the arm"..................Encouragement

The greatest problem to overcome........................Fear

The most effective sleeping pill...............Peace of mind

The most crippling failure disease...................Excuses

The most powerful force in life..........................Love

The most dangerous pariah..........................A gossiper

The world's most incredible computer................The brain

The worst thing to be without... . Hope

The deadliest weapon.............................The tongue

The two most power-filled words....................."I Can"

The greatest asset....................................Faith

The most worthless emotion..........................Self-pity

The most beautiful attire..............................SMILE!

The most prized possession......................... Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication.............Prayer

The most contagious spirit.........................Enthusiasm

Everyone needs this list to live by...pass it along!!!

Mar 2022

Life is series of a millions tiny miracles.

Never Make Permanent decision based on temporary feelings Im happy.

7 Ways to LEARN from MISTAKES

Jan 2022

Mistakes are a crucial step in learning, growing, and improving yourself. That doesn’t make it easier to admit you’ve made a mistake, though…

If you are able to courageously stand up and honestly say, ‘This is my mistake and I am responsible’ the possibilities for learning will move towards you. 

Seven ways to learn from mistakes:

1. Take 100% responsibility

2. Pinpoint the cause of the mistake

3. Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake

4. Growth starts when you see room for improvement

5. Move on fearlessly

6. Apologize if necessary

7. Keep your eye on the big picture

8. Mistakes are a part of being human. 

Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons. 

So the most important lesson is to trust that while mistakes are inevitable, if you can learn from the current one, you’ll also be able to learn from future ones.

MISTAKES = MIS-TAKES in Life. You can have a re-take of it.

2 STEPS to Handle any Difficult Situation in Life

Jan 2022

When a difficult situation from your past stirs anxiety, anger, sadness, and so forth, it means there’s some ideal you’re attached causing you the suffering. 

If you’re sad, for example, there’s an ideal situation you expect, and you are holding on to, that doesn’t match reality.  Perhaps a family member did something hurtful to you – you are sad because this person shouldn’t hurt you.  But this ideal – even if it makes sense – is NOT helping you,  it’s hurting you. 

If you want the past to be different than it is,  you’ll be sad or angry or anxious for the rest of your life. 

Noticing what you’re holding on to is the first step.  

The second step is letting the ideal go. 

While it may be impossible to completely relinquish yourself from fantasising about all your ideals, if you see that a particular ideal is causing you to suffer, you can make a conscious choice to let it go. 

Letting go of this ideal means embracing the reality that every family member you have is a human being, and human beings sometimes make terrible mistakes. 

There’s nothing ideal about it, but that’s the truth, and it must be accepted.

Peace of mind in the long run is about allowing yourself to be perfectly OK with “what is,” rather than wishing for and worrying about “what is not.”

“What is” is what’s real – the rest is just you, arguing with life.

Do-Nothing Day

Aug 2021

We all know how to lay around and waste time. 

But many of us are too busy to do it much, and when we do it, our minds are often on other things. 

We cannot relax and enjoy the nothingness.  Doing nothing can be a waste of time, or it can be an art form. 

Here’s how to become a master, and in the process, improve your life, melt away the stress and make yourself more productive when you actually do work.

Start small.

Doing nothing, in the true sense of the word, can be overwhelming if you attempt to do too much nothing at once.

Do small nothings at first. Focus on 5-10 minutes at a time, and start your practice sessions in a safe place — at home, not at work or in a busy public place. You may also not be ready to do nothing in the middle of nature, so do it in your bedroom or living room. Find a time and place where there are not many distractions, not much noise, not a lot of people to bother you.

Shut-off all distractions — TV, computer, cell phones, regular phones, Blackberries, and the like. Doing nothing is hard when our communications gadgets are calling at us to do something.

Now, close your eyes, and do nothing. Yes, the smart-asses out there will say you’re doing something — you’re sitting there or laying there, closing your eyes. But we mean doing nothing in the sense that if someone were to call us up and ask what we’re doing, we say “Oh, nothing.” Don’t let them call you up, though. They are trying to distract you.

After 5-10 minutes of doing, nothing, you can quit, and go do something. 

But try to do this every day, or as much as possible, because it is not possible to become a master without practice.

Build our Character

Oct 2020

Most high achievers spend time developing their professional skills. They seek to be highly competent. Fewer,  focus on their character. 

I personally spent lot of time developing my professional skills, no matter how much you try, it becomes obsolete in few years.

What are you currently doing to develop your character?

John Maxwell recommends that you focus on three main areas: integrity, authenticity, and discipline. 

He calls this as The Law of Solid Ground.

If we want to be great leaders, we must stand on solid ground and be worthy of trust. 

The way to build that trust? Build our character. 

Three Main Areas to focus:

• Integrity.  Be scrupulously honest. No tiny (or big) exaggerations, no white lies. The truth. Period.

• Authenticity.  Be you. No phoniness. No pretending to be someone you’re not. 

• Discipline.  Do what  needs to get done whether you feel like it or not. Start with your Identity—who you aspire to be—and let that drive your Behaviour which will then drive your Feelings rather than letting your feelings drive the show. What must you do today? Let’s do it. How can you improve +1% in each of those today? Integrity. Authenticity. Discipline. Comment below! Trust is the foundation of leadership.  Character is the source of trust. 

Sowing a Seed

Oct 2020

We should know that we already have what we want in life. If you start with this intention that ‘I already have what I want’, then what you want will fructify easily. 

Thinking, ‘I have it’, is like sowing a seed. Once you sow a seed, then you put water and manure and it will sprout and grow. 

So, you know mentally that the seed is there. Same way, whatever you want to achieve in life, know that you are that and you have it.  If you think you don’t have it then only lack grows.

That is the reason why people who have money keep getting more money and those who do not have; they don’t get because they keep saying that ‘I don’t have, I don’t have’. So, the mind goes in the direction of lack.

Hope you all might have experienced this. Whenever things were not in the (grocery) shop,  the (some) shopkeeper will always say, ‘ what else you need ? it's yet to come or will come tomorrow '  I never heard, saying that "No. I don't have".

So that ‘lack’ of consciousness should go and you should feel the abundance. 

So, whatever goal you want to achieve, first know that you have it, you have achieved it, and then put your effort to achieve it. 

Effort should be put, but only effort will not work. Before effort, there should be the seed of the goal as well.

Leadership - a thought

Aug, 2020

" One of the most important attributes of a leader is their ability to admit their mistakes "

I personally had various experiences and views on following this quote.  I tried this in many occasions with different people and most of the time it worked very well.  It works same way as other admit their mistakes honestly to me as well.  You will end up with wordless and feeling emotional or empathetic and you will definitely support.

In professional or personal situations, as a leader we have to make countless decisions and sometimes things inevitably go wrong. many leaders may see admitting a mistake as a sign of weakness, but the opposite is true in many mistakes.

People around you need to know you have trust in them and in your own leadership to say " I am sorry.  I didn't handle XYZ well. I take full responsibility.  Here is what I (we) need to do to get things right and back on track...."

The sign of superior leadership is not that they avoid mistakes; it's that when they do, they are humble enough to admit it and learn from them.

Staying Positive

Jul, 2020

Sometimes it is very challenging to stay positive in a negative situation.

In many instances, (for eg., in my recent Covid situation) when we find ourselves in these situations, it becomes very easy to adopt negative thinking and in the process, blame everyone and everything for the world of problems happening in our lives or at our organisation.

It's tough, I know, but that's what being a leader is all about, and that's why I strongly believe, leadership is not for the faint at heart. Your leadership/management skill is tested in a crisis, and you can immediately deduce what kind of leader or manager you are when you are faced with challenging situations that stretch you to think beyond your comfort zone.

It's all about a matter of mindset because you have to inspire other to believe that everything will be okay.